Stephi LaReine// UK Fashion & Lifestyle Blogger// The Age Of Individuality, Oasap Cathedral T-shirt, Pink Pastel Hair, Crystal Necklace


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Today was a weird day, I got up for uni at 6:20am, to be in for 9am, to find out I wasn’t actually due in that day and felt whilst I was at it I might as well do some artwork, all the first years were staring at me, and I felt especially anxious and sensitive knowing I hadn’t been well days prior and knew I probably wasn’t looking particularly healthy by comparison to some days. I felt watched. After a few hours work, I tootled back to the bus stop with a great sense of achievement.

On the bus I was greeted by a old lady around 70 who disrupted me with my earphones in (this seems to happen quite a lot, almost like it’s rude to not make conversation even though she’s a stranger) the bus is silent as a mouse, packed full of people, she makes polite on the surface conversation, to which it’s thrown off on a tangent by the boisterous tone in her voice echoed the question ‘Why did you dye your hair pink?’ I reply ‘Because I like pink hair and  it is part of who I am’ she knocked me down a few pegs by telling me that what I was doing is not normal, that I should dye my hair black (Odd I know!) and wear more sensible clothes, appropriate for a lady because it is ‘weird’, tutting when I became defensive of my appearance.


It almost seems nowadays being unique, special, or individual is labelled with the connotations of being weird, strange and unapproachable, maybe I’m thinking too much into this whole matter, but I thought society got over the whole judging people’s appearances long ago.

We now live in the age of individuality where unique new styles and looks are praised, inspiring the world.

Take the fashion industry if we all stuck with sensible, normal, and acceptable clothing, designers would be tearing their hair from their root. Fashion & our appearances are an expression of our personalities, tastes and of our own representation, that becomes our identity. I understand this lady within her generation didn’t quite have the rebellion and diversity that this world does today, but I think of it as quite rude to interrupt someone from their day to day life, their own bubble of joy to insult them and get one up by saying they are not appropriate and not normal.

This all falls into the same category as people who are prejudice and stereotype people with brightly coloured hair, tattoos and piercings as being unemployable, something we’ve just shifted out the shadows from in the UK.
Creativity should be praised. This website is a large portion of my creativity which includes a lot of pictures of me, my hair, my personal style and I am praised for my creative solutions that benefits many hundreds that read it every day. But it worries me that we still live in a world where people think it’s unacceptable to look a certain way.

I just want everyone to take a sense of equality away with them today after reading this. That just because you look very different to another, because of ethnicity, height, weight, age or style it doesn’t mean to say you are wrong or inappropriate for looking that way. You are your own character, and as long as you can identify with yourself as being happy with that, nothing should matter. I didn’t judge that lady for her dress sense because she is her own being, and that is what makes her happy, I didn’t let those comments sink in because I am very happy with who I am and how I express myself. This world is made for us creative souls so let others thrive off being unique and not being a sheep.

What makes you individual?


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  1. Anonymous
    October 13, 2014 / 7:05 pm

    This is such an empowering post, people should be allowed to wear or look however they wish without judgement. You are beautiful Stephi! xxxxx

  2. October 13, 2014 / 7:12 pm

    Amazing post! So glad you stood up for yourself, I love your hair pink! I work with children and have a tattoo on my inner wrist and get tutted at it all the time, why should my body art limit my ability to work with children?! Individuality should be celebrated!

  3. October 13, 2014 / 7:14 pm

    Amazing, so beyond true! You should feel a great sense of proudness in standing up for yourself, not sure many people would in that situation. It's a sad reality of a proportion of society that are that small minded. Go you xoxo

  4. Anonymous
    October 13, 2014 / 7:34 pm

    So inspiring!

  5. Sandy Greere
    October 13, 2014 / 7:35 pm

    Amazing post, really shows what kind of world this is! Wish we could tell everyone this! x

  6. October 13, 2014 / 7:56 pm

    Such a motivational post! I love your tshirt too! Abi ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Anonymous
    October 13, 2014 / 8:07 pm

    We should all adopt this opinion, perfect post, stand up for yourself! x

  8. October 13, 2014 / 8:27 pm

    Love this! And I also love the pink hair, definitely makes you stand out from everyone else! Everyone needs to hear something like this ๐Ÿ™‚ Rebeka x

    Rebeka Taylor

  9. October 13, 2014 / 8:35 pm

    Great post! You raise some excellent points. It often baffles me when individuality is frowned upon outside the context of unified corporate image. That a company wants their employers to look one way that's one thing, but to say that a person will be a lesser judge, doctor or engineer because they have something tattooed on their skin or different hair is accepting the existence of stereotypes and perpetuating them.

    Individuality and differences should be accepted on ALL levels as long as they don't stop people living their lives, not just on some levels. It's a shame that this seems to be a lesson that's very difficult to learn for a lot of people because of the way society unfortunately still is.

  10. Anonymous
    October 13, 2014 / 8:50 pm


  11. October 13, 2014 / 10:00 pm

    That old lady sounded incredibly rude! I too would have been really defensive. Who is she to tell you how to look, especially being a complete stranger. Funny really as before I'd even started to read I thought to myself how good your hair looks! Carry on doing you as you look fab! x

  12. October 13, 2014 / 11:56 pm

    It amazes me how people can be oblivious to how megalomanic they are being when they attempt to tell others how they should or shouldn't look. Unfortunately there seem to be vast numbers of these finger-wagging morons who've imparted their intolerance to their spawn. Some of them try to use churches, schools and social media moderators to force their own insipid narrow-minded views on others. Perhaps that explains the proliferation of comment trolls on social media sites like Youtube. Sorry about the rant – I tend to do that.
    There are a lot of things that contribute to my individuality, some of which have resulted in hostile reactions and being false-flagged on social media sites. I'm an adoptee who searched for his natural parents, a vegetarian, and I male-model and review ladies full brief panties on my lingerie fashion blog at and on YouTube at I'm glad neither of us are sheeple.

    I LOVE your pink hair, your beautiful lipstick, your eye-makeup and your artistic and colourful Oasap T-shirt, Lilac Moon choker and crystal necklace. They all look absolutely GORGEOUS!!!

  13. October 14, 2014 / 3:51 pm

    I love this post. It's like you said, "Creativity should be praised." People's differences, our individuality (and commonalities), are beautiful. And as long as we're not deliberately hurting others, these differences in thoughts, feelings and forms of expression should be recognised and for being just that. Beautiful.

    And just so you know, I LOVE your hair. xx

  14. October 14, 2014 / 5:15 pm

    I'm so disappointed to hear that the elderly lady confronted you on your appearance and criticised the way you choose to present yourself, that's such a pity! I agree that creative flair is something that should be praised and not squashed .. with all of the opposition directed at those who don't fall into a box, it only makes those who choose to stand out that little bit more beautiful! To answer your question, I couldn't say what makes me stand me individual in appearance, however in personality is that I refuse to stop being impossibly soft. There is so much hardness in the world, I don't fancy contributing to it! Hope your week improves! ๐Ÿ™‚
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  15. October 14, 2014 / 7:20 pm

    Thank you so much, I'm glad you share my thoughts on this! x

  16. October 14, 2014 / 9:43 pm

    When I last had my hair pink and older lady came up to me and asked if I thought she could do it too as she loved the colour pink – I told her that yes she certainly should and she went off to tell her husband the good news! I think it is an opinion that is far less the case nowadays – you prob just caught her on a bad day! her grand daughter probably just got a tattoo on her face or somthing and she was venting. haha

  17. October 15, 2014 / 8:01 am

    Thank you very much, I'm keeping my hair pink for a while, so I suppose people have got to get used to it!
    I don't see why it should hinder your career having a bit of body art!!! Stay individual!! x

  18. October 15, 2014 / 8:03 am

    I generally don't stand up for myself enough but I felt so strongly about this! We should be open minded really and accept all! x

  19. October 15, 2014 / 8:16 am

    I wish everyone would too, thanks for commenting! x

  20. October 15, 2014 / 8:18 am

    Thank you so much ๐Ÿ™‚ x

  21. October 15, 2014 / 8:21 am

    Uniqueness is something we should see as a blessing, I love that you totally get it, it's living within this generation! x

  22. October 15, 2014 / 8:22 am

    Thank you very much ๐Ÿ™‚ x

  23. October 15, 2014 / 8:30 am

    Thank you, I really enjoy having pink hair! x

  24. October 15, 2014 / 8:32 am

    Thank you I'm glad you agree, it should shine through in society today that we have moved on from judgemental comments and accept everyone for who they are!

  25. October 15, 2014 / 8:36 am

    She certainly was! Thank you very much we really shouldn't see judgemental behaviour in this age! x

  26. October 15, 2014 / 8:37 am

    Thank you so much for sharing, stay true to who you are and the moral of the post is don't let anyone put you down for who or what you are! We're all individual and we should stay that way! x

  27. October 15, 2014 / 8:38 am

    Thank you very much, you're unique for who you are, tattoos are such a wonderful expression I think! x

  28. October 15, 2014 / 8:39 am

    Thank you, glad you like the hair and we are all creative not everyone would agree but we are and expression can take many forms and we should just accept that! x

  29. October 15, 2014 / 8:43 am

    I totally agree, we are all individual in many ways whether personality or looks but you are unique and stay true to who you are, thank you so much for sharing! x

  30. October 15, 2014 / 8:44 am

    Oh wow that's amazing, and probably so ahahaha! x

  31. October 15, 2014 / 10:57 am

    I love this post, glad I found your blog lovey. Your hair is glorious! xxx

  32. October 15, 2014 / 11:04 am

    Don't listen to the old bat! What does she know?? I think your pink hair is awesome. If I had more courage (and wasn't verging on 30, eeeps!!) I'd do the same. I died my hair bright orange years ago, and proceeded to get stares and comments for ages. But you gotta just be true to you ๐Ÿ˜‰

  33. October 15, 2014 / 3:55 pm

    First off your hair is kick ass and she can shove her opinion. I LOVE that we live in the age of individuality and expression. It shows you so many cool and unique things about every person you encounter. I wish dying my hair fun colors, or getting piercings and tattoos, or even just dressing "out of the normal" wasn't labeled weird but was shown as me being creative with my mind, body, and spirit.

  34. October 15, 2014 / 5:10 pm

    I absolutely loved this post!
    It's good that you stood up for yourself and I totally agree with that, at this point of humanity, it is actually strange that people keep judging others because of their appearance or labeling them as "unemployable" because they dress in a certain way.
    It was also rude what that lady did; just because she didnโ€™t or couldnโ€™t express herself when she was young the same way as nowadays people do doesnโ€™t give her the right to judge your appearance the way she did.
    I believe that everyone should embrace their uniqueness because thatโ€™s what makes us who we are and thatโ€™s what makes us different from the rest of people; we are all our own being.
    P.S: I love your pink hair!

    salha | abuhayar

  35. October 15, 2014 / 6:26 pm

    I would love to believe that you can be individual and others would accept that. However, unfortunately our society is brainwashed by the media and humans can't help but be judgemental. Although, hopefully it will become mainstream for everyone too realise that pink hair , piercings and having an alternative fashion sense is the norm or at least it is okay in employers minds.

  36. October 17, 2014 / 7:57 pm

    It really should be accepted more! x

  37. October 17, 2014 / 7:59 pm

    Thank you so much, people come in all shapes and sizes I don't see why someone would think it is acceptable to judge absolutely anything!
    Always embrace individuality x

  38. October 17, 2014 / 9:45 pm

    Thank you so much, it is such a wonderful age we live in!!! x

  39. October 17, 2014 / 9:46 pm

    Who says you cannot have pink hair, if you're almost 30 you've got your entire life ahead of you of potentially having amazing hair, don't let that stop you!!! x

  40. October 17, 2014 / 9:47 pm

    Thank you so much ๐Ÿ™‚ x

  41. October 19, 2014 / 7:15 am

    I love your blog! This is a great post ๐Ÿ™‚
    What makes you beautiful
    Do you want to support each other and follow via GFC? If yes please tell me and i follow back. Lets stay in touch. ๐Ÿ™‚

  42. October 21, 2014 / 1:11 pm

    This is such a great post! What is the definition of 'normal' after all?!! People should be whoever and whatever they want to be with no questions or judgement.

    I'm 6ft tall and for a girl that is unusual I guess, but the amount of times people comment on it is just silly really, like they just can't accept that I am taller than most people! 'Omg you're so tall', and I am just here like 'really I hadn't noticed!!!'

    This post seriously made me happy!!

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